The Ultimate Guide to Prostate Pleasure by Charlie Glickman

Author:Charlie Glickman
Language: eng
Format: epub
Publisher: Cleis Press Start
Published: 2013-01-17T05:00:00+00:00

Start Slow, Ramp Up

In the responses to our survey questions about prostate massage techniques, two words came up over and over again: slow and gentle. Most men can take, and enjoy, hard pressure and fast motion on the prostate during climax and during the states of high arousal leading up to it. But if you start the massage with that level of intensity, it’s likely to feel overwhelming.

It’s easy to fall into the trap of thinking that “more is better.” Many people believe that harder and faster stimulation is the best way to create more sensation, but this is not always true. Think about spicy food. More intensity isn’t always better—the best flavors come when the spices are balanced. Prostate massage is similar in that respect. When your partner isn’t aroused enough to take the level of intensity that you are giving, it is likely to feel like too much.

If the stimulation continues to feel unpleasant, his nerves may reject the sensations by shutting off and numbing out, and then he definitely won’t feel any pleasure. That, of course, is the opposite of the desired effect—so resist the temptation to go hard and fast right away. This is particularly important if he is new to prostate massage; he may be tender at first and going too hard may hurt. But even if he has experience, starting slow will serve you well.

At the start of each new massage, a little bit goes a long way, and seemingly mild touches can create decidedly intense sensations: it is all new to the body at that moment. To maximize the novelty factor at the start of each session, do slow strokes at the beginning. Easy does it! Since each tiny stroke feels so new to him, you might be surprised at how far you can take him along the road to pleasure with slow movements and fairly light pressure. Begin by applying only as much pressure as you’d use to check the ripeness of a piece of fruit.

As the energy builds, you can ramp up to higher levels of intensity in a way that works for him and will be enjoyable every step of the way. Throughout the session, build slowly from lower to higher levels of intensity. Every few minutes, increase the pressure a bit, or go a little faster.

To avoid going too far too quickly, follow a roller coaster model: increase the intensity for a spell, then drop it down a bit, then increase a little more, drop down, and so on. Each time you bring the intensity back down, you essentially press the Reset button on his nerves. Initially, the lighter sensations won’t feel like much to him because of the harder stimulation of a moment before, but soon he will adjust to the lighter sensation and start picking up on it—then you can take him back as high as you were before, and even higher. Backing off and then heightening the intensity works for many different kinds of sex.

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